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6 Reasons Why Your Mistakes Make You The Perfect Special Needs Parent

6 Reasons Why Your Mistakes Make You The Perfect Special Needs Parent

People will do and say crazy things. No matter what they think or say, what insanity your kids are going through, or how many times you mess up, nothing can change the fact that you are the perfect parent for your child. 

  1. If you start to look for reasons why, I know you will see that it’s true. Even when you go into angry toddler mode as a parent, it gives you another way to empathize with your child when they’ve had a meltdown. “It’s okay baby, me too.” 
  2. If you had a crappy childhood, it prepared you to be the best parent for your child. 
  3. If you have a health problem that keeps you from doing all the activities with them you want to, it’s exactly what you need to slow down and parent intentionally or empathize.
  4. If you work full time and feel endless guilt over not spending more time with your kids, it’s allowing a team of other adults to surround them with love and strengthening their character.
  5. If you came to adoption from infertility you are not broken. Your losses and journey have prepared you with everything you need to parent. You are whole. 
  6. If you have a bunch of kids like I do and feel like there isn’t enough of you to go around, perhaps it’s creating a strength, resilience, and team work in your kids they wouldn’t otherwise have. 

Have your own back and start thinking about all the ways you are exactly the parent in the perfect circumstances that your child needs. You get to be who you are and give everyone else permission to think whatever they would like. If you’re not letting someone down at some point, you’re probably not doing it right. God has already approved of what you do, and that’s all that matters. 

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The adoptive + special needs parent’s guide to peaceful days.

The adoptive + special needs parent’s guide to peaceful days.

I am a mom of five children through birth, foster care, and adoption, and have several special needs children including one with autism and frequent meltdowns. What I can tell you is I spent years trying in vain to make my kids behave better so I could have more peace.

I thought fixing them was the secret to happiness and peace. Turns out fixing my own heart is the secret to lasting joy and daily peace, despite diagnoses, meltdowns, and trauma.

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